Is It True That Sex Before Marriage Is Evil?
Church tells us that sex before marriage is a definite no no, that it's to be saved for the wedding night. Who holds onto such an archaic belief anymore? Oh yeah, I do.
Evil things come to those who won’t wait. Unwed fornicators who give in to their animal lusts are destined to burn in hell forever.
Umm, isn’t that a bit over the top? Burn in hell forever? Aren’t you turning back the clock a bit with that religious tripe?
Yep, but some part of that is still true for many people who are raised in religious families. I’m in my fifties, and I remember those fearful messages being passed on to me from the adults who were nearest me. I didn’t care for God or Satan, but love, sex and desire, were the bigger issues that mattered to me. Who is the right sexual partner for me? When is the right time to have sex? (even atheists have concerns)
My new answer: When two people agree to share themselves with each other. It's as simple as that. I guess I’m a dumb romantic. Five decades of experience have distilled my once old-world view. It's now an uncomplicated answer. Kiss, hug, and then make good love. Easy.
Is that answer any better or worse than Christians living by some stupid sex rules that were said to be made by God?
Before you roll your eyes and expect another post of pro-religion or anti-sex, let me say that it's about something else.
It’s about fear.
Sex isn't the work of the devil. It never was. Evil is a Church that uses fear as way of controlling its followers, lies about sex, and then manipulates the system to bankroll itself with its own breeding stock (Church developed the first successful pyramid scheme). It’s a business. That’s what sex is to Church. You won't go to heaven if you abstain from sex. You won't burn in hell if you don't. You’ll just be pissing off some important business people who want your devotion, loyalty, and money!
Sex is NOT an evil act. It's is not about greed. It’s lovely. It’s free.
Our bedrooms are NOT the places for Church. I say good on those who break the rules and get their freak on. Sex is for the people. For lovers, anyone who loves or wants to love. Sex is for romantic liaisons, for bonding, kindness, security, release, love, confirmation, entertainment, happiness, sharing and also procreation. The rest of what sex can be is hidden inside the text of my dark fiction novel.
-Michael Forman (Author: See below)